A recruiter looked at your profile

Wow! LinkedIn says a recruiter looked at my profile, should I jump with joy? Does the job description of a recruiter carry more weight than the average LinkedIn user? Should I be grateful? If anything I find this titbit of information annoying more than useful. Ok so a recruiter looked at my profile, but they never reached out. They did not inmail me or like a post that I had written. Nothing happened. Other than LinkedIn thought it useful to flag the fact that a recruiter looked at my profile.

Maybe they think that we want to know when we are getting noticed by recruiters? I don’t. I can’t recall any one time that a recruiter contacted me on LinkedIn and it lead to a job, or even something useful. In fact I’ve found people asking “Is it still available?” on Facebook Marketplace more useful. No. A recruiter looking at my profile on LinkedIn is as interesting as someone looking at my for sale items on eBay and not bidding. Unless there is action on their part, it’s of little use.

When to write-off a car yourself

Have you ever written off a car yourself? I don’t mean by crashing it. I mean where it gets to the point that the cost of repairing the car and keeping it on the road far outweighs its value so you decide to write it off as not worth it.

I’ve done this many times now and I’m about to do it again. The car is worth about two thousand five hundred book price, but the cost of repairs are more than that after it developed a serious engine fault.

The problem with modern cars is they are too complex and parts are very expensive. A headlight was 900 pounds and that was just the plastic casing with no electrics or bulb inside! Ridiculous. And don’t get me started on labour costs.

Despite the car looking great there comes a time when it is not worth sinking more money into it and instead putting your money towards your next daily drive.

So what to do about the old car? If it has a serious fault you cannot sell it in good conscience without declaring it, at which point you may be lucky to get scrap value, even in a part-exchange. If however you have somewhere to store the car, one thing I do is sell it for parts. Most cars are worth more as a sum of parts than as a whole.

I like to start from the inside working out. I have used eBay, Gumtree, Facebook marketplace, and even the side of the road outside my house. I have stripped cars and used the proceeds to fund the next car purchase or project.

It can take time and you have to take the weather into consideration, which is why I start from the inside first. Inside the cabin, under the bonnet, inside the boot. Rain can ruin exposed interior parts. The last things I sell tend to be trims, brightwork, and the wheels. When I’m left with the body shell I sell that too to a scrap metal dealer. They get the V5C document, after which you are no longer the owner of the car, or whatever is left of it.

If the car was your pride and joy then some can feel depressed about breaking it up and may be willing to take a loss in return for selling it on cheap as a project to a new owner who may keep it on the road. I tend to be more mercenary though and sell it for as much as I can get. I once sold a classic, one of only a handful left in existence. I couldn’t find a collector interested so I sold it to someone who wanted the parts, especially the engine. The rest was scrapped.

Sometimes the best thing is to just write the car off yourself.

When they’ve already got your money

It can be stressful dealing with an individual or business where you have received very bad service or a product and they are not prepared to resolve the problem. They already have your money, and as far as they are concerned the matter is not open for discussion. Go away, we have your money already!

I’ve seen people stress-out and even lose sleep from worrying and agonising over the wrong that has befallen them. The higher the price paid the more stress is felt. This has happened to me many times and it took me a while to develop a method of dealing with it. Firstly I try to avoid such situations by thoroughly researching the individual, business, product, or service before buying, but should it happen to me again I try to look at the problem from another person’s perspective.

Have you ever seen a friend or family member fall into this situation and you are happy to help where possible? Notice how the stress and anxiety that they are experiencing is not experienced by yourself? That is because you have no skin in the game. You have not lost anything. The bad service was not experienced by you and as such you are able to view the situation with a clear mind and approach it carefully and with no distractions.

The trick is to become like an observer to your own situation. To look at the problem and to think, ok this has been an expensive lesson, let’s limit the loss to what it currently is, park it for now, take a moment, and then look at it as a problem that you can attack at your own pace and that might result in a win of some sort. What have you to lose? View it as a game. The worse case scenario is that you are no better off than you are now.

By looking at the problem as if it did not happen to you but, say, a friend, you are looking to see how you might go about resolving it or getting some or all of your money back allowing yourself to have more focus, a clearer head, free from the distractions of stress and anxiety.

I have used this technique to fight fines that were falsely applied, government red tape that led to being over-taxed, fraudulent costs levied against me, outright theft, and purchases made where I did not receive what was paid for.

Worrying can get in the way of having the clear head you need to tackle such problems. Life is a game and we all occasionally land on the wrong square leading to someone taking your money in return for nothing or not what was agreed. Don’t get mad, stressed, or anxious, get focused!

Headlights

I’m driving at night. It’s winter and the cars coming towards me all have bright headlights. So bright that sometimes I can’t even see. I’m temporarily blinded! I have to slow down or even stop because of how bright they are. Some have accidentally left their main beam on. Others have aftermarket lights that can’t be street legal. The government has promised to undertake a review of headlights but that’s in the future, right now I’m being blinded constantly. So much so that I start day-dreaming about installing extra lights on my car or a dial that I can dial up the brightness and blind them back, give them the message. But I don’t. I become the offended driver and shout out to them to turn down their lights. But no one can hear me inside my car. They can probably see me though, and the road for miles ahead.

When your body gets too old

I read about this former pro skateboarder, considered the best in the world by many. Born in the 60s he can no longer perform the tricks of his youth, his body just won’t allow it. He also gets funny looks when he’s on his skateboard, so he only goes out at night. Street cleaners and the homeless are the only ones that see him. An old man just skating the streets performing the occasional trick.

It’s sad when your passion in life is tied to your body’s abilities. As you get older your body just can’t perform the same movements that it could in its youth. And if you suffer an injury it takes a lot longer to heal.

Take Speedway riders for example. Due to the nature of the sport and the possibility of serious injury, it is considered a young man’s sport. Retirement age is around 40. Pushing that limit can have consequences. One rider pushed that boundary into his early 50s. He was past his prime and struggled to compete with the younger riders, but his passion for his profession kept him going as long as he could. He wasn’t ready to retire and become a commentator just yet. He felt he had a few more rides left in him.

Some keep their bikes, their skateboards, and ride just for fun. Limiting the risks. Embracing the feeling they get from doing what they love. For as long as they can.

Settle down

I overheard someone giving advice to another person the other day. They were telling them to settle down and have kids.

Settle down. What a weird expression. As if we are all manic living our lives and that at some point we should give up all the excitement and activity and settle down, and while we are at it have some kids. It’s an old expression used a lot and I get it. At some point in your life you should pause on the career aspirations and focus on building a family, if that’s what you want. I just found it an amusing thing to say. To settle down. To pause the flurry of activity that is your life to date and to live a calmer more family-oriented life.

The real price is the discount

I’ve learned that the real price is usually the discount. A seller will display a high price and then show you what you could be paying if you were a member or had a loyalty card. Or maybe they just display a discounted price but where the reduced price is the real price to make you think that you are getting a bargain.

It pays to be informed, to do your research. To look at what others are selling at, to compare the market. Don’t leave it till the last minute, when you are in front of the discounted special price item. Pulling out your phone to compare the market before buying may not work as some stores kill phone signals on premises to prevent you from calling up Amazon or Google. You could always step outside, or come back later. Don’t be forced into buying until you know the real market price.

Most people don’t pay retail any more. Retail prices are guidelines, targets to get below. Everyone loves a deal. It pays to do your research.

The progress bar

Sometimes it feels like we live our lives by the progress bar, just one pixel at a time. Just endless waiting for digital completion. In my youth it was watching D-copy or X-copy slowly copy an 880MB or 1.44HD floppy. Later, when I started testing software for a living it was animated progress bars of all kinds. One developer thought it would be fun to add an animated gif as a progress bar to keep us testers entertained. It just looped forever until the activity was complete. Its only job was to let you know that something was happening, unless the software had crashed in the background of course, then you would be watching that animation forever.

We can waste our life just watching progress bars.

The art of walking and talking

I haven’t yet mastered the art of walking and talking. It sounds strange to say that out loud but it’s true. When I’m out and about, especially in crowds, I tend to focus my attention on my surroundings and who is near me. When I receive a phone call that all goes to pot. My situational awareness is reduced. I try to find a place to the side, an alley or alcove, somewhere I can focus on the phone call while remaining aware of who is around me and who is listening.

Somehow both my attention to the caller and my surroundings is reduced. It’s worse if I continue talking. You shouldn’t use the phone while driving, and I definitely shouldn’t use one while walking. I lose half the conversation and get in peoples’ way.

The exception to this rule is when I’m in the countryside. With no one around I can enjoy both the walk and the conversation. With a hands-free kit the experience is even better.

I’m sure there is an art to walking and talking but I have yet to master it.

Something went wrong

Something went wrong.

I hate that message. It’s both a statement of fact and unhelpful at the same time.

Your laptop, device, car, whatever piece of technology that you are currently using has failed to complete the requested task and instead is showing you those three words: something went wrong.

What went wrong? How do I fix it? There is no help because it does not know. The exact scenario has not been catered for in advance. There is no exception handler for this particular exception. Instead you’ve fallen down to the bottom of the switch case and landed at the default, if nothing else show them those three words code branch.

Something went wrong.